Does feminism = bully?

I have stated this before, and I'm sure it will frustrate some of you women that read this, but I am not, repeat, NOT a feminist.  In the least.

I appreciate the women who went before me to fight for voting rights and equality...but in my (maybe simplistic) mind there is a difference between equality and feminism.

It seems as though, when I was little and I would hear the word feminism it meant equality - Equal pay, equal opportunities (which, even in that I'm not sure that equal opportunities is always the good or right thing for that matter...but I digress.)

In fact, in my life, in the short amount of time that I worked (in an office, and in speaking) that I had just as many opportunities as the next person.

But in my adult life, you know the part of life when the money from a job and the stability of a career actually goes to pay bills instead of my entertainment budget, feminism has taken on such a rotten connotation for me.

I'm not sure when it happened, but now it seems that feminism = mean.

From the women that I have seen in recent years who have managed to climb the ladder to upper or executive leadership, one common trait is in them all - they are mean, nasty women.

They are angry, accusatory, ungraceful, merciless - but they are the boss and don't you ever forget it...oh and me?  Well, I'm just an underling who stays at home...

But it makes me think.

I know society says that women are supposed to be one way.  Feminism would like us to be completely equal to men (from what I gather nowadays).  But the bible, you know the book that God inspired, it talks about a woman in a completely different way.

In Proverbs 31 it talks about the wife of noble character and in essence, the virtuous woman.  It speaks to her ability to run her household, be an entrepreneur, support her husband and be involved in the community.  Proverbs 31:25-26 it says:  "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.  She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."

I wonder if women, in trying to get ahead, chose to handle themselves according to what the Bible says instead of what society says, if they would actually be more successful.  I wonder if women were kind and wise, giving faithful instruction that is strong and be very respectable if they would climb the ladder faster with less enemies.  I wonder if instead of back biting, undermining, gossiping, trying to be the alpha male, we embraced the feminine qualities that God wants for us to have - if we would achieve our goals more effectively.

And from the wife of a man who has had to work with some of these women, I am confident that the men who work for you would do so more happily if you led them with strength and dignity instead of harshness and criticism.

I don't know, just sayin'.