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Wednesday, June 8, 2011

It's just not FAIR!!!

In our living room sits our computer.

I love it.  I hate it.  It sucks my time away.  It distracts me.  It gives me an outlet.  It makes me feel like I have friends other than my 4 children I am with all day (really, I'm not that pathetic, but seriously...there are days.)  Anyway, since it sits there in its ugliness, I constantly have a picture of our kids on it to make it a little  bit more desirable to the eyes.






I change the picture on the screen every once in awhile so as to not make the kids feel like I love one more than the other...but, really, on the list of priorities - this is not on the top of priorities.

This morning, Luke was up first (as usual), and when I came down he had already made breakfast.  This morning, it was ice cream cones filled with chocolate syrup and honey.

Delightful.

Sorry, I didn't take a picture - but at 6 AM, my response was less than, um, loving.

Anyway, I sat down at the computer to do my early before the kids all wake up email check when Luke walked over to me and said, "Now the picture is Emma.  Before it was you and Lily.  Then Will.  What, are you trying to hurt my feelings or something?"

OH NO!!!!!!!!

So, I instantly grabbed my memory card and switched the pic.


Now the computer has this precious picture gracing its screen.

I have now entered the land of fair.  I think that I'm pretty fortunate to just now be entering into this grueling, tedious land.  But regardless, I am here.

As we all know, and I'm sure most of you are with me, but I want the world my kids live in to be fair.  I want everything to be easy and simple and cut perfectly down the middle every single time.  But life is just not that way. 

Life is messy and life is not fair.  Crap.

I'm his hero...I'm all of their heroes.  They draw pictures of me and them - I mean, really, I'm right up there with Spiderman...and ya, I'm pretty sure that's how I looked in my workout clothes from the other day.

I should be able to keep it fair all the time for them - well, in theory.

But I don't.

I remember taking a parenting class when the twins were two and this whole fair thing was a topic of conversation, but my kids were different from all other kids, and things being fair was just not an issue nor would it ever be.  Seriously, they were two...lay off.

Well, now I'm there.  My kids, shocking I know, are not different from all other kids.  And fair matters.

So, how do you teach your kids the unfortunate reality of life just not being fair?

I promise this time, I will take notes.

2 comments:

glorybaby1

While I, by no means, have this all figured out, here are a few thoughts. If life were to be truly fair, we would not have a chance of heaven or any blessings while on earth. Fairness went out the window at the cross. When we can somehow help our kids see the amazing blessings that surround them, rather than the perceived (and real) injustices of the world, they can be thankful and humbled rather than indignant and jealous. We have a long way to go on this, but sometimes when Nico is complaining about something, including something not being fair, he'll say "now, mom, I'm not being not thankful about this..." or other times he catches himself and says "well, I AM thankful for this, but it's just not my favorite." Bottom line is that there are always things to be thankful for, even in the midst of tragedy. It's ok to be sad or angry or whatever else, but in the end we are to "give thanks in everything."

glorybaby1

While I, by no means, have this all figured out, here are a few thoughts. If life were to be truly fair, we would not have a chance of heaven or any blessings while on earth. Fairness went out the window at the cross. When we can somehow help our kids see the amazing blessings that surround them, rather than the perceived (and real) injustices of the world, they can be thankful and humbled rather than indignant and jealous. We have a long way to go on this, but sometimes when Nico is complaining about something, including something not being fair, he'll say "now, mom, I'm not being not thankful about this..." or other times he catches himself and says "well, I AM thankful for this, but it's just not my favorite." Bottom line is that there are always things to be thankful for, even in the midst of tragedy. It's ok to be sad or angry or whatever else, but in the end we are to "give thanks in everything."

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