CAUTION: This post contains many generalizations and possibly some offensive comments. I apologize beforehand if I offend you, but please consider that maybe the offense is because it applies. Ooh, I probably just offended you. Sorry.
For just a few more days, praise the living God, my husband manages approximately 75 people. Of those 75 people, 70 of them are women. My husband hates his job. He is grateful for his job. He is appreciative that he has a job. But he has hated his job. And with all the reasons he could site as to why he is so passionately opposed to his position, they pretty much all boil down to this:
He loves women, obviously. His mom is one, his wife is one, even his daughters are. But let's be honest - women are impossible.
So, this post is not about my husband in case you were wondering.
This, my friends - or soon not to be friends, is what it is about:
Why do we (women) act the way we do?
Generally speaking (generalization #1) when a man has a problem with another man, they deal with it and then it's over. They do not however, obsess over how they were wronged, call a bunch of their guy friends to gossip about the wrong doer until the wee hours of the morning and sweetly call their gossip huddle "guy night." However, I am confident that when men say they are going to go play poker, they in fact, are playing poker. Shocking I know, but I believe it to be true.
However us women (generalization #2) obsess over how we were wronged, call a bunch of our girl friends to gossip about the wrong doer until the wee hours of the morning and sweetly call our gossip huddle "girl night."
Dave is astounded quite regularly how his employees will call each other best friends and then turn around and try to get each other fired. Quite ridiculous if you ask me, but I am astounded quite regularly how catty us women can be (including me) and how quick we are to nitpick and back bite each other.
Being a mom is hard. Being a mom is the hardest, most physically laborious and emotionally draining job I have ever had and will ever have. Most of you reading this can say "amen" to that. And there are some of you who have another job on top of the mommy job and you have to juggle everything. We need support and encouragement from other women, but unfortunately I find that instead of encouragement we receive criticism and judgment.
And Christians - aargh!!! I am a Christian, and I am speaking to myself here, but COME ON PEOPLE!!! Not all mom's are Christians. Not all people are Christians. But I can guarantee you that after being criticized, condemned and judged by us in our holier than thou attitudes because we feel self-righteous and entitled to share our unauthorized opinions while we have a tree the size of Rhode Island sticking out of our own eye, that they in fact will not become Christians.
I am pretty sure that Jesus did not act self-righteous, although He had all authority to. I am confident that Jesus did not gather the 11 disciples to drag Judas' name through the dirt, although He had all reason to. I am positive that Jesus did not publicly humiliate those who were not believers, instead I believe He loved them to repentance.
I think that instead of having a husband bashing session under the guise of "Women's Bible Study" we actually studied the Bible, we would have happier marriages.
I think that instead of having a gossip session and a pity party under the guise of "girl's night out" we actually encouraged each other to success in our friendships and family, we would have deeper more meaningful relationships.
I think that instead of using Facebook as a tool to criticize and pass on our self-righteous judgment, we used it as a tool to encourage and uplift, to motivate and minister - we would have a greater impact.
As women we were given a great purpose, but I fear we stand in our own way to accomplish those things that God put before us - and that would be the biggest offense of all.